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A Hotwife for helpmate (Part 4)?

2007-05-25T03:58:00.000-07:00

Wanting to make sure my Wife had not brought anyone home given my state of dress i peeked around the corner and saw that She was alone. "Your home" i exclaimed and rushed into Her arms and gave Her a huge hug. i was so swept up with emotion at seeing Her it was all i could do not to cry.

Anxiously i asked "Did you have a good time ?" Not really sure i wanted to know the answer. "Oh i had a wonderful time sweetie," She then took hold of my hand and said "Let's come to bed and i will tell you all about it."

We both got naked and laid down in bed together and held and carressed one another as She told me about Her night. She was introduced to a lot of different people and there was no one else there she felt like she knew other than the friend who had invited Her. She talked to several different couples and there were a couple of them there that She "really wanted to get to know better." There were a lot of apparently bi single females and some single males in the crowd but none of those really interested Her. She said that one of the activites was that people would do "lap dances" on each other and that several men had given Her lap dances and made a point to rub on Her legs which were very soft from the lotion that i had rubbed on them. She thanked me for having done such a good job getting them smooth for Her. During a couple of these lap dances She had had a couple of cocks bouncing up and down by Her face, one of which was shaved which She commented that She liked. She also said She had given a couple of lap dances to both men and women as well which entailed Her exposing Her breasts.

i then timidly asked "Well Honey, umm did you hook up with anyone?" The answer was as follows. She said that there was a lot of dancing going on and She danced with one particlar husband and wife a few times. She found the man somewhat interesting and allowed him to hold Her closely on slow songs and kiss Her on the sides of Her neck and even let him run his hands up underneath Her skirt and grope Her thong clad bottom. i guess all the while he did this he whispered in Her ear how sexy She was and how he wanted to have a 3way with Her and his wife. Unfortunately for him though for some reason his wife rubbed mine the wrong way and despite being incredibly horny She declined the invitation and told him to take a raincheck as tonight She needed to go home and take care of Her husband. My Wife, what a tease!

In the bedroom that night that little tease turned into a Tigress for me. She grabbed Her vibrator and turned on a adult DVD and got directly to the point, kissing me passionately, and having me suck and bite on Her breast and assist in vibrator play. Then She got on Her hands and knees to get a closer view of the TV while using Her vibrator. She mumbled something about me getting over to Her and as i did She grabbed the back of my head and pressed it towards Her backside. I got the que and instantly began cramming my tongue inside Her anal rosebud and rimmed Her for a good ten minutes while She had several nice orgasms with the Vib. Fortunately my Wife actually keeps that area very clean and it does not have a bad taste at all.

She then turned around and looked at me and said, "I want you to take control for ounce and take my ass" She barked out. I gently started to nudge it into Her and She said "C'mon, be a man!" Taking this as a challenge i started thrusting it into Her with all my reasonable might and couldn't belive how quickly i got it fully inside Her. Soon i had Her oohing, awhing, and squealing. I even made a half hearted attempt at slapping Her ass and She quickly said "Yeah, spank that Ass, show me whose my Daddy!" Shocked and feeling like a fish out of water i nevertheless started slapping it hard and even left hand prints as i thrusted even harder into Her until She finally said "Ohhh, Awwwh, Oh my, this feels like a double penetration with the vibrator, OH, AWHHHHHHHHHHHH I then emptied my seed into Her bowels as Her body quacked from the force of Her own orgasm. She then told me how wonderful that felt and how She really wanted to try a double penetration in real life.

Incredibly, this wasn't enough to satisfy Her. She told me to get a wet rag and wash off my cock as She wanted to do a 69. i did as much and we had a wondefful time locked together in that way, i felt so spoiled getting a blow job in private like that. Sensing She was to soon climax again i started thrusting my fingers in and out of Her marital sanctuary. This really got Her going, and then She hit Her peak. For like 2 minutes and right after screaming "I'm so horny" She started squirting all over my chest, huge squirts btw, like geysers or something. My chest and the bed became totally soaked. She finally collapsed and said "Ok take care of the sheets and meet me in the bathtub."

This was where i thought our wonderfully erotic evening would end, but my Wife would again prove me wrong, by giving me one final surprise.

TO BE CONTINUED

A Hotwife for helpmate (Part 3)?

2007-05-25T02:57:00.000-07:00

As the evening wore on i found it more and more difficult to accomplish anything. i kept wondering what my Wife was doing, feeling worried about Her not being safe,worried that i had forgot to make sure She had enough condoms packed in Her purse, and just overall was becoming consumed with those typical "cuckold anxieties."

Most noticeably though, was the feeling of how terribly i was missing my Wife. i felt myself wanting to drive to the location and be with Her but knew better than to do so. She would have considered it disrespectful of Her on two counts. One being my work that She had assigned me wasn't finished, and the other being that my Wife would regard my showing up under such circumstances as being akin to an act of "machismo," meaning that She would feel i was checking up on Her and trying to impede Her in exercising Her established sexual freedom.

Finally around 10pm the phone rang. Thankfully it was my Wife! i was hoping She was calling to tell me She was on Her way home. That proved not to be the case. It was a brief conversation in which She simply told me She was being introduced to lots of really neat people and having a great time and that She was doing fine. While i was relieved to hear from Her, i could hear a lot of party type noises in the background and felt disturbed by the thought of what was likely to happen tonight. After the phone call ended i felt myself thinking 'tonights the night it's going to happen. tonight's the night that my Wife is going to spread Her legs for another man and allow the sanctity of Her marital sanctuary to be permanently defiled by the desecrating presence of another man's cock, a cock that would rammed between Her gates and engulfed inside the walls of Her sacred temple that i so fondly worship. As i walked past a wedding picture of my beautiful bride in Her wedding dress i thought to myself 'Is this what i truly want?'

To my surprise the answer i gave myself was 'Yes. If that is what the Woman i truly love more than anything in the universe wants then i want Her to feel free to do as She pleases sexually, so long as it's done discretly in a way that keeps our kids sheltered and done in a way that doesn't pose a significant danger to either of us.' When making this realization i also noticed that despite all my anxieties i had an incredibly powerful erection between my legs, and surmised that what was really bothering me was that i wouldn't be there to watch it happen.

After this bit of self reflection, i felt the angst i was suffering from ease a little, but as the night wore on, the feelings of missing my Wife became more intense. i wondered: Would She be coming home tonight at all? Surely She will call again, won't She?" BY midnight i felt like a man who had been shipwrecked on an island for months and was desperately missing his Wife. Wanting to feel close to Her while She was absent, i noticed a pair of Her satin brown Victoria Secret full back panties on the ground near the laundry basket and i took oFf my boxers and slipped them on. While the silky material almost produced aN orgasm on first touch, the feeling soon subsided and i subsequently felt a warm, serene, fuzzy feeling of simply being close to Her which caused my erection to dissipate and allowed my penis to tuck itself away into the confines of Her loins. This allowed me to finally focus and get some work done.

A little after 1am i about had about all the bills caught up, and then as i got to Her gynochologist bill i thought to myself how ironic it is that i am alone in the living room kneeling on the floor wearing nothing but a pair of Her panties while paying this bill while in all likelihood She is getting a cock stuffed inside the object of that examination this very moment."

This thought also turned out to be wrong, and much to my relief i heard Her walk through the door.

TO BE CONTINUED

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A Hotwife for helpmate? (Part 2)

2007-05-25T02:10:00.000-07:00

After our morning session, the afternoon was a typical day with me doing lots of chores around the house and my Wife spending time shopping and with the kids. Knowing that i had a lot of work to do that i had brought home, My Wife arranged for a baby sitter and i was very thankful for that as that would let me better get caught up on my work. She did instruct me though that addition to my work She wanted me to go through the bills and get them paid. i didn't like having the extra work put upon me but it did make me feel better that She was giving me access to the checkbook again (as you'll recall from a previous post She had recently prohibited me from accessing the checkng account and had put me on an allowance), it made me feel good to think that i had earned from Her a greater degree of trust.

After the afternoon had rolled into early evening my Wife called me into the bedroom. She was wearing a beautiful Victoria Secret brown bra and panty set with the panty being a very flimsy g-string. She told me She was getting ready to go out tonight and that She needed me to put lotion on Her. She handed me what i knew to be an expensive cream and instructed me to put it first on Her back and then on Her legs. After i had finished Her back and was kneeling at Her feet and putting the lotion on Her legs it occurred to me as what She was having me to do. She was making me, Her own husband, put lotion on Her to make Her feel all silky and smooth in case She found a person she wanted to sleep with that night! As i knelt before Her and rubbed the insides of Her thighs with the lotion i thought to myself 'Do i really need to have had another man's cock to go inside my Wife to feel any more like a cuckold than i do right now?'

Afterward, i had began getting the bills organized in our living room and was down on my knees sorting them when my Wife walked in. i was shocked to see that She had on a dark plunging tank top that showed lots of cleavage and Her absolute shortest miniskirt, a jean one that didn't make it even halfway down Her thighs. For Shoes she was wearing a sexy heeled open toed pair. She then struted towards me with all the confidence of a supermodel and gave me a hug and said it was time for Her to leave and commented that She would "miss me tonight" and that She "wished i could go" in a voice that sounded somewhat patronizing. As i held Her i was inwardly pleading for Her not to go, but instead only said "i wish i could go too, but i love you Honey so go out and have a good time."

"Oh I will" She responded. "And while I'm out having a good time make sure your being a good slave and getting My bills paid." After saying this She flashed me a sexy smile and sauntered out of the house. "Yes dear" i called out to Her as She left, wanting Her to not feel any anxiety about the bills not being attended to timely while She was out.

I then thought to myself She had just called me 'slave.' Will becoming a Cuckoldress make Her truly start seeing me in that role? Is my wonderful FLR marriage heading into the realm of a Mistress/slave relationship? These thoughts and others would prove to haunt me for much of the rest of the night.

TO BE CONTINUED

A Hotwife for helpmate? (Part1)

2007-05-25T01:06:00.000-07:00

A couple of weeks ago my Wife realized a woman She had befriended was into the "swingers" lifestyle and soon after learning this found Herself being invited to an exclusive swingers party. Even though the City is huge i was uncomfortable about going there and thankfully had to much work to do that weekend to be able to go. Knowing this, i thought my Wife would be dissuaded from going. But to my shock She told me the evening before the party (as we were going to bed) that She was still intending to go, even if it meant going without me!

The thought of her going to a swingers club without me really had me worried and i had a very restless night's sleep. i could not believe She would do anything so bold. Then after the sun had risen and i was still sleeping, i felt a hand wrapped around my cock. It was my Wife of course. You would have thought She was churning butter She was stroking it so hard. When She could tell it was hard enough She pulled me on top of Her by my cock and we had some awesome sex. i believe i was able to give Her one good orgasm before i came inside Her. She wasn't finished though and told me to get Her Her vibrator which i immediately did. She then had me help Her with vibrator play and instructed me to bite Her nipples. While in the build up to Her vibrator induced orgasm She told me multiple times that i wasn't "biting [Her] nipples hard enough" and that because of that i was to be "punished." I began biting them harder and was told "there you go, good boy, that's how i like it"

Finally She had an incredibly intense orgasm which caused me to feel good about myself, and i figured any thought of punishment from my Wife would be forgotten. Again i misjudged Her. She grabbed me by the arm and looked at me sternly and said "Ok, now go down there and lick up your mess." As i had of course already came and was no longer horny in the least i was totally not in the mood to do anything of the sort. Nevertheless, i knew better than to disobey Her and did as i was told. She pulled up the cover's and pushed me down between Her legs and then placed the covers over me. Between being under the covers and the warmth of having my head locked between Her thighs i quickly became very hot and zealously began lapping up our combined juices as i felt myself desperately wanting air. I had quicly removed and ingested all that could be reached by my tounge and paused to tell Her as much when i felt Her hand remove itself from my head and saw it's middle finger's being dug deeply into Her marital sanctuary. After a moment She removed Her fingers and had on them a huge glob of what i would soon recognize as my own cum and inserted them into my mouth.

Dutifully i licked and sucked them clean, nearly gaging from the amount and taste of my spending as it passed down my throat. "Umm Your such a good boy licking up your mess like that. You can stop now." my Wife then commented. Relieved of my cleanup duty i sat up next to Her and She told me that i "took my punishment very well." Then, getting out of the bed to shower She said "Y'know, I just can't wait to go out tonight."

TO BE CONTINUED

Issuing My Wife Her Shields

2007-05-22T15:53:00.000-07:00

My Wife and i had a nice experience a month ago and unbelievably i forgot to blog about it.

We were on a weekend getaway and my Wife intended to return to the swingers club that i wrote about earlier. After she got out of the bathroom to show me what She intended to wear i felt my eyeballs practically fall out of their sockets. She had on a black tank top that was so low cut that if you stood at just the right angle at Her side you could see one of Her nipples. She also had on tight jeans and a pair of sexy open-toed shoes. "Are you ready to go have fun?" she said in Her giddy, sexiest voice.

While as you may recall i had boughten my Wife "shields" (ie condoms) i had not given them to Her yet. i had wondered if perhaps i wasn't jumping the gun pre-maturely. They way She was looking now, i knew the time to provide Her with them had come.

She had sat down on the bed so grabbed the sack the condoms were in that i had packed in my suitcase. Then i knelt down at Her feet and said "Honey, i have something i want to give you." "Yes." She replied. "Well Honey, you know that i see one of my most important roles in your life is to protect you." She's looking down at me and nodding, and then i say "Well, in light of where we are going tonight i thought i should provide you with these just in case things get really crazy." Then i handed her the box of condoms, and Her response was enthusiastic laughter. From Her reaction i knew She was pleased.

Still laughing She got up and made a point to let me know She thought that what i did was "sweet" and then put a condom in Her jean hip pocket. From the gleeful look on Her face i knew i had done the right thing and that the time of my cuckolding would be coming soon. Right before we left She did make a comment i found disappointing which was "Oh by the way honey I don't want you to get too excited about blow jobs, you'll only be getting those when we go to swing clubs." i reflected on how good Her session of giving me head had felt at the club a few weeks ago and it made me sad to think i would only be able to enjoy such pleasure as part of being some public spectacle. But i had to admit, it was better than not recieving such pleasure at all.

We had our usual fun at the club, and there were more people there than on the previous occassion. Unfortunately it was mainly single men and my Wife had let me know She was in a very "bi" mood that night. My Wife had several drinks at the neighboring bar and was feeling very loose and carefree and was brought up on stage several times by the dancers.She had Her top removed many times, much to the delight of the crowd, who greatly appreciated seeing my Wife's 36c's completely bare. We wound up having sex in the clubs hot tub again, and true to Her word She had me sit on the top of it as She gave me a blow job for a few couples to see. After a seesion of intercourse we went back into the lounge area and watched some more dancers, and then my Wife requested a private dance from a blonde stripper She was attracted to.

The stripper took us to a lounging area where my Wife and i laid down together and then the stripper began her dance routine. Soon into it, the stripper and my Wife were literally making out and taking turns licking and sucking on each others boobs. i was completely ignored and did nothing other than casually caress my Wife's arm. As the dance began to end i noticed from the look on my Wife's face it appeared She was having a orgasm, and looked down to see that the stripper was grinding her knee into my Wife's crotch. When i saw the look of pleasure on Her face it made me feel very happy as well. It was then i realized how perfectly at peace i was at the tought of being my Wife's cuckold, as seeing Her happy is truly my life's greatest joy.

My Wife was not through with me yet though and we then went down into a couples room and there was another couple in there as well. A woman was giving a man head and my Wife began doing the same to me. At one point the man looked at me and smiled as we both realized we had been watching the other man's woman giving a blow job while enjoying our own. Then the woman got up and sat down on his cock and turned to face us, and my Wife caught this and followed suit. Each of us watching the other have sex until we males climaxed, it was intensly erotic but that was as far as it got, there was no touching between us, and barely even words were exchanged.

After this we returned to our hotel room and i was exhausted. My Wife wanted one more session however. She got out Her vibrator and put a adult movie in the computer, and demanded i get myself hard and pleasure Her one more time. We sat facing each other in the bed and as my cock was inside Her she used the vibrator on Her clit. As She got close to what i think was Her last climax of the night She looked at me and said "Ohhh this feels so good, I really want to try a double penetration! Ohhhhhhhh" Seeing that She had climaxed really hard i pulled out and rolled onto my back and basically past out from exhaustion, too tired to even see to my own orgasm.

THE END

Another Sign that Matriarchy is upon us.

2007-05-09T01:03:00.000-07:00

i was in a grocery store the other day looking for a sport's magazine when i noticed this fine looking Heroine known as "Ms. Marvel"on the front page of a comic book and just had to take a look at it. Judging from the picture on the cover and what i saw on the inside i can safely say with all but 100% certainity that there is at least one submissive male in either the design or writing department of Marvel comics with a job. (LOL) On the inside pages it showed her from behind fighting some monster and half of her rear end was hanging out of her outfit!(Speaking of which, does that outfit scream DOMINATRIX or what?) Being a parent this actually disconcerted me a little until i saw the comic book was rated "A" for adult (And when exactly did they start rating comic books btw?).

Anyway getting to the Matriarchy aspect of this post, the comic book featured a newly created edition of the Avengers and she was chosen to be their leader. I'm guessing she replaced Captain America who died but am not sure, could someone help me out here? So now that we have a female leader for the most prestegious super hero alliance ever known, what could be next, a Woman President?(LOL) These certainly arn't the comic books i grew up on, which outside of Wonder Woman always seemed to depicit Women as damsles in distress. Comic Book or not, Ms. Marvel's ascension to the position of head of the Avengers is just another sign of how the society we live in "is a changin."

And yes, you guessed it, i bought it.(LOL) With that on the cover could a submale not have? Felt a little odd being a mid thirties guy taking a comic book to the check out counter but hey, it was rated "A" (LOL).

Wife Decides to Further Tighten Her Purse Strings and Punish Her husband in the Process.

2007-05-02T00:11:00.000-07:00

It had appeared to me of late that my Wife was intending to loosen Her control of the purse strings to our family income. It had been nearly two months since She enacted the restrictions i mentioned in my March 7th post, but in the past two weeks She had informed me that She no longer wished to purchase a new home and had even allowed me unsupervised access to the checkbook. Of course the only reason She had allowed this was because She wanted me to pay some bills that She was to busy to pay, but i figured it was the start of Her loosing my restrictions. This made me feel really good as right after She enacted Her restrictions She actually went so far as to hide the checkbook from me. This hurt my feelings as it made me feel like She doubted my submission to Her. Unfortunately without my thinking, last week i gave her cause to actually have that concern.

After my Wife had issued Her restrictions i resolved to really be frugal and spent significantly less money than i was even allowed access to. Feeling proud of my frugality and happy about the apparent loosening of my restrictions, i found myself trolling ebay a few days ago and found some really good deals on some baseball cards that i had been wanting. i payed for them using our Paypal account which is connected to our checking account. i didn't think my Wife would mind given how little i had spent over the past two months. Still, i knew i had better tell Her about it before She discovered it, lest She think i was trying to hide my purchases from Her. Unfortunately though, due to our mutually busy schedules i forgot.

Last Thursday evening i get a phone call from my Wife while She is driving home from a class. In a furious tone She explains how She had been reviewing Her bank statement that evening and saw my ebay purchases. "How could you make those ebay purchases without letting me know?""We need to talk when i get home". i gulped, i knew i was in trouble.

When She got home She had me follow Her into the bedroom where She berated me about the purchases, the fact i wasn't getting the kids to bed on time and being strict enough, and some other minor things. Mainly though, it was about the money. She indicated that She thought i needed to be taught a lesson, and the look in Her eye told me what that lesson would be. i went into the closet and brought Her one of my belts.

Without saying a word She gave me a look which told me to kneel down on the bed next to where she was sitting. i stripped naked and knelt down on all fours on the bed. She was down to a bra and thong pantie Herself, but i definitely knew this night i wouldn't be getting anything but pain. The next thing i knew i felt a thunderous smack on my bottom which sent me falling immediately down on to my tummy due to the ferocity, leaving me moaning and squirming from the blow.

To my surprise that was to be my last swat of the evening. Instead She grabbed me tightly by my balls and pulled me back up on all fours. Then keeping a tight grip on my balls, She began pulling out the few idle hairs i have on the back of my neck and shoulders which She disdains, and pinching off a few pimples that i had on my shoulder and back areas. She did this for the next fifteen minutes, the whole time berating me for making those purchases without consulting Her. Repeatedly She said "How could you do that?" "I am so disappointed in you!" "You are a compulsive shopper." You have shown me time and again that you can't be trusted with money"

"What am i going to do with you?"

After asking this last question She actually answered it Herself, and in a way that made me really shudder. She said that She thought She had decided for us to have two separate checking accounts, with me being given an allowance to be dolled out by Her from our paychecks for my account, and the rest to be left in an account only She would have access to! Upon being told this i pleaded "Honey please don't do that, i promise i'll do better, that won't be necessary i swear."i saw the image of my signing over my paycheck to Her at the bank and Her handing me a paltry couple of hundred bucks to go in my own account right in front of a teller and began feeling stomach pains over how humiliated that would make me feel.

During this whole lecture i was surprised by the significant amount of pain She was causing by these simple acts of pulling and pinching on my body. Sometimes it would be so bad i would instinctively pull away, but when i did this She would dig Hr nails into my balls and tighten Her grip even further. She did this because it actually caused me more pain than the pinching and pulling so She was actually keeping me subdued.. Even worse, each time i pulled away She called me a "sissy" and told me to "be still" as She wasn't "done with me yet."

The whole time i kept wanting it to end and was surprised how long She kept me like that. It was at least 15-20 minutes conservatively, i would have thought Her hand would have gotten tired of squeezing my balls. Of course the whole time i am telling Her how "sorry" i am, and that "i meant to tell Her right after i made the purchases" etc... . But then after being called a "sissy" for about the sixth time i lost my cool a little. i told her She wasn't giving me enough credit for how good i had been and reminded Her of a purchase She had made several months ago which i found extravagant.

Hearing this She released my balls and turned me over and pushed me down on the bed. She then got really close to my face with Her face, then looked me in the eyes. She started squeezing my right nipple with Her right hand and said. "Do you feel this?" She asked squeezing my nipple tighter and tighter, "This represents the stress you have made me feel by frustrating me with your money habits." She then squeezed it absolutely as hard as She could, and this caused me so much pain i was pounding me feet and hands into the mattress and felt my eyes misting up from the pain. "i'm sorry, i'm SORRY" i said in a horribly whining voice, i would have said anything to get Her to stop at that point.

She then let go and did the same process with my left nipple. "Do you feel this pain? This represents how upset i get when you back talk me and don't respect me, DO YOU understand? "Yes Ma'am Yes Ma'am, i'm SORRY" i replied, pounding my hands and feet into the bed and twisting my head back and forth uncontrollably.

"Good" was Her simple response, and then She released me. Afterwards, while laying in bed She commented about how much better She felt after our little "session." i confided to Her that it made me feel better as well. Then we drifted off to sleep.

As for why this made my Wife and i feel better, i couldn't explain it any better than fellow submale blogger fd does in his "Her Househusband" Blog. He explains it perfectly in his KISS series number 25 titled "Tresure Her punishments." See his article and the interesting comments concerning it here:

http://fdhousehusband.blogspot.com/2007/05/key-insights-of-successful-submissive_03.html

Another experience of PDA (Public Display of Authority) from my Wife.

2007-04-30T00:23:00.000-07:00

i had a totally "submale" experience at the Race today but first kudos to Milka Duno (above) for finishing 14th out of 21 drivers in her rookie debute. That's beating 7 men for those of you who might be scoring. (LOL) Kudos also to my Heroine Danica Patrick for finishing 7th today, a remarkable feat after the disasterous pit incident she had with a teamate early on. Still trying to figure out what happened there.

Anyway, the experience i'm sure many of you will find interesting occurred to me before some friends and i went inside the track for the race. At the track you are allowed to bring in beverages (even alcoholic ones) as long as the container is below a certain size. Well after getting out of our vehicle my Wife filled up Her girlfriend Carmen's rather large purse with lots of cans of coke and beer and a bottle or two of mixed drinks. She then handed it to me and matter-of factly said "Here, carry this in." So basically i had just been ordered to carry around a large

overly full purse in front of two close guy friends and 60,000 other people LOL.

It really didn't bother me too much until i got to the entrance to get my bag checked. There a nice looking college age girl who was checking bags looked at me and said "Hello sir, my I check your Ummm....Purse?" "Umm sure" i replied nervously, hoping that my face was already red enough from sunburn to hide my embarrassment. She was looking so quizically at me that i could tell she felt awkward and noticed she barely even looked inside my purse before ushering me through to get to the next person.

Unfortunately for me i wasn't the only one who noticed the incident. Some of my friends were behind me and laughing hysterically about what had just happened. And i had to admit it was rather funny and i was actually glad to see my friends having so much fun, even if it was at my expense. Such is the life of a being a helpmate.

Expectations of a helpmate

2007-04-27T17:02:00.000-07:00

In the blog "She's the Boss" authored by WhateverShesays he wrote about how in his Female-led relationship certain expecatations of him have evolved where his Wife is concerned.
Today i had a similar experience and thought it worth a brief note.

My Wife and i were eating some very hot buffalo wings at KFC for lunch. Mid-way through the meal my Wife said to me "My pepsi is empty and needs refilled." i presumed that to be a request for me to get up and get Her a refill and was going to do so after i finished eating a rather large bite that i had put in my mouth. As i was finishing it and a few seconds after She had made the request, She said "I'm really glad your enjoying savoring that bite." i could tell by the tone of Her voice that She was upset that i hadn't got up immeidately to get Her a refill so i leaped up while still finishing off my own bite and quickly went and got it for Her.

When i returned She smiled but said nothing and we finished our meal. Nothing needed to be said however as what had just happened said it all. My Wife now has the expecatation of me that i will wait on Her hand and foot and also expects from me prompt service in doing so. Such are the expectations generally of a helpmate husband in a Wife led home.

Curious my fellow married submales, what are some of your expectations that you have to deal with from your Wives?

Giving Her helpmate PDA (Public Displays of Authority)

2007-04-27T01:31:00.000-07:00

If there is one thing i would have to say i am seeing more and more of it's my Wife's assertion of Her authority over me in public.

For instance we were in a restaurant last weekend eating dinner with a female friend of Hers' and our infant. During the meal our infant got really fussy and my Wife looked at me as i was eating and said "Why don't you take our daughter out to the car so Carmen and I can finish eating and have some conversation." As i was about done anyway i certainly didn't mind so i took her with me and put her in the backseat and then got in the drivers seat of my Wife's SUV.

Completely exhausted from the day i laid my head back to rest and had almost fallen asleep when 10-15 minutes later my Wife and Carmen came out. My Wife noticed i was in the driver's seat and walked up to it and said in a slighty perturbed but playful voice "Allright, get out. I'm driving." Really tired and not wanting to get up i replied "Honey, can i please drive, i'm really tired and don't want to get out of this chair." To this She opened the door and looked me straight in the eye and right in front of Her friend said (in a now just perturbed voice) "No. OUT."

Somewhat embarrassed i sheepishly slide out of the seat, but not without pouting off "Man, why can't i drive." To my surprise i actually saw a smile on my Wife's face and as we were changing places She whispered in my ear "Because your my bitch." (giggle).

This caused me to laugh as well and as i went to my place at Her passanger side i thought 'My Wife. Always in the driver's seat.'